Monday, August 17th, 2009 at 5:23 pm  |  109 responses

Brendan Haywood Calls Marbury ‘Gay’

Not to spread nasty rumors, but as some people say, it takes one to know one: “At first it was cool, but after a while it just became disturbing. He’s on YouTube crying with no shirt on for no reason, sweating while his boy’s rubbing his shoulders. What’s that about? That’s like gay porn. I don’t understand it. He’s dancing to a song called ‘Barbie Doll,’ doing like stripper moves. I have no idea what’s going on with the guy, it’s almost like he’s trying to end his own career. There’s not a GM out there that would touch Marbury right now… Have you seen the ‘Barbie Doll’ clip? Click on YouTube and go to Barbie Doll. There’s no way any other professional athletes would wanna get dressed around this guy, because you gotta think something is a little, he’s swinging from both sides of the fence.”

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  • http://www.shawn-kemps-offspring.blogspot.com/ TADOne


  • http://slamonline BossTerry

    I dont think Brenda Haywood has the right to call anybody anything..

  • Seven Duece

    first of all, is Brendan Haywood even getting dressed for games now? secondly, why is he even opening his mouth if it’s not to complain to a ref or coach? third, the intern from NY called to say that Marbury is most definitely NOT gay. high? yes. gay. no.

  • doc fan

    Etan Thomas once swung on brendan from that side of the fence.Don’t kno who cried afterwards tho.

  • http://allanzuss@yahoo.com Mendel

    i think that tattoo on his head is pretty gay

  • JacobM23

    Brendan Haywood has a point..

  • http://slamonline.com Brad Long

    Steph should take Brendan’s mother out to dinner and put it on ustream.

  • http://slamonline.com Brad Long

    Has anyone else heard that Kahn is heading back to Spain to try and broker a trade to the Knicks for Rubio?

  • Tyrone Shoelaces

    hahah do your thing Brendan.

  • http://www.shawn-kemps-offspring.blogspot.com/ TADOne

    I heard that too, B. Not sure how much stock I put in that rumor though, since it was an unnamed source.

  • http://www.anwilson.blogspot.com rainman10

    doesn’t he mean “both sides of the plate”? just a funny story though. I agree with Brendan, marbury is gay…not that there’s anything wrong with that…

  • Captain Jean Luc-Picard

    Brendan jus expressin wha everybody else feels

  • RedRum

    Brenda said what???? Ok… Marbury is a looney but come on… Brenda???

  • BostonBaller

    A nobody calling a has been names….I till think Steph has something in the tank.

  • luv2ball

    Last time Brenda called someone gay (Etan Thomas aka the poet) he got a beat down. I mean that Marbury clip was kind of less then heterosexual like, but Brenda need to shut up and get post move. He has been in the leauge almost ten years and doesn’t have a legitimate post move. I swear he hasn’t improved since he was at UNC.

  • Joe A

    This begs the question; What would you rather be, gay or Brendan Haywood?

  • Joe

    Some of the funniest 13 comments I’ve seen on here in a while. LOL!

  • http://www.manutd.com Z

    Coming from someone whose manhood has been questionned ever since UNC…

  • http://www.hibachi20.blogspot.com BETCATS

    he does have a point though…

  • Teddy-the-Bear

    Remind me again why Brendan Haywood is caught up in Starbury’s videos? He needs to get caught up in life.

  • http://yahoo.com shay_boogy

    you can’t call him gay because of things he has done unless he is rumored to come out then he isn’t gay in my eye though all the stuff he has done on youtube are veryvery gay things or things that only gay men would do

  • Wes-O

    he needs to come back to jersey

  • http://slamonline BossTerry

    So, Marbury, Laettner, and John Amichie walk into a bar……….

  • http://Www.lkz.ch Darksaber

    must be something in DC water that makes wizards scrubs go off on their more acclaimed brethren. Try playing for at least 41 games then maybe we’d listen, Kitty.

  • http://www.twitter.com/Th3_R3al_Chris Young Chris MP3

    Teddy wins!

  • iLL wiLL

    Please, Brenda, work on your game.

  • http://www.twitter.com/Th3_R3al_Chris Young Chris MP3

    And if Marbury plays next year, coming off the bench or not, who wants to give the over-under on which player has a better year?

  • http://www.twitter.com/Th3_R3al_Chris Young Chris MP3

    And if Marbury plays next year, who wants to give the over-under on which player has the better year?

  • Justin

    That sh*t IS gay. He looks like a queer man.

  • http://slamonline.com The underrated one

    No bossterry wins LMAO!

  • Raeniel


  • D12FSU

    he didnt call him gay…… he said what he was DOING was gay, semi difference. like Chris Rock said, “if someones acting like a f@ggot, you can call him a f@ggot”

  • flash

    he does act like one anyway. wtf is wrong with marbury anyway. get a wife dawg

  • TC

    wait, Laettner is gay too?

  • http://yahoo.com Logues

    who is brendan haywood?

  • Teddy-the-Bear

    Brendan Haywood seems like a pretty big d-bag right about now. Its one thing if you’re homophobic, but to openly say something like that in public, about a fellow NBA player is just disrespectful to both Steph and g@ys. If Tim Hardaway was ridiculed pretty much his entire career after his remarks, Haywood should be too.
    I hope Steph comes back just to drop 50 on the Wizards and shut Brendan Haywood the f up.

  • German Reignman

    As long as they don`t try to put him in a box ….

  • German Reignman

    Oh, and I`ve got a question for you guys because you really seem to be “in-the-know” with this stuff:

    How does one “act gay” ? (stupid stereotyping)

    And in conclusion is Brendan “acting heterosexual” by talking/whining to the media about his discomfort dressing around this guy ? Or is he just ashamed because while Marbury was shirtless he thought “Damn, how come only I have got man-boobs?”

  • luv2ball

    Well German, that clip of Marbury is pretty gay Gay. If you and your boy were at a club and Barbie girl came on would you dance like that? I have no problem with gay people, but dudes that are all flamboyant are pretty gay.

    In all honestly I’ve met Steph several times, he gets mad chicks, and I don’t think he plays for the other team, but that tip was definately suspect. Zach Marbury on the other hand is another story lol and if anyone from here is from the DC area they can co-sign on Steve Francis.
    Brendan is not acting heterosexual, he is kind of gay himself.

  • Harlem_World

    Brendan Haywood? Y’all talking about Brendan Haywood?…C’mon man…Scrubs rule 101: When you’re stealing money for 10 years straight, you’re supposed to keep your head to the floor and try to stay in the shadows.

  • luv2ball

    Co-Sign Harlem World…..Is that you MAse,or Cam-ron

  • AJT

    …. and which GM would “touch” Brenda???

  • Yesse

    Brenda Gaywood with another ridicilous statement.He already has a bad reputation in the Nba, like trying to injure LeBron.How does Gaywood know did Marbury have any reason of doing it or not?Besides if Marbury is or would be gay, i dont think thats too big of a deal like John Amaechi.

  • LeoneL

    And Marbury smoked weed while broadcasting it to the world in response.

  • http://www.facebook.com/sesa.opas Sesa

    Brenda is jealous that Marbury acting gay had made him famous. Brenda wants a piece of the action. Easy enough to see his motives

  • http://sdjfklf.com Jukai

    The casual gay hate at SLAM is always pretty great.

  • tavoris

    why is Brendan Haywood looking at youtube videos of Stephon Marbury if he has a problem with it? sounds pretty much like the pot calling the kettle black.

  • coffee

    My understanding of calling people gay is that it helps men (or boys) who don’t feel masculine enough publicly establish themselves (as a last resort b/c they’re doing nothing else). Brendan appears to be a low status male, but wants to fit in, and therefore he is more likely to call someone else gay.

    Since most 5th graders aren’t sexually active one strategy is to call others gay in order to meet some standard of masculine identity. Homophobia is pathetic, but it doesn’t just affect gay men it also boxes heterosexual men into stupid, aggressive and limiting behaviors. It just makes life dumber.

    I hope Marbury is ok. Dancing to barbie girl on youtube is kinda genius if he knows what he’s doing, but I’m not sure he has perspective on it.


    Stephon Marbury should just take his own life!

  • http://www.another48minutes.blogspot.com Gerard Himself

    I knew the commenters here would react the way they are reacting right now. What I can make of this are two things:
    -a player like Brendan Haywood has no right to be outspoken, because he’s not a star (judging by the comments people are making about him that he should work on his game, instead of giving an interview which probably lasted not longer than a couple of minutes)
    -Although I agree with the statement that Haywood is acting a little bit homophobic, and even discriminating, the general point he made about GM’s not signing this guy, and how probably other players see Marbury because of his, well, let’s call it odd behaviour, is somehow lost to a lot of people commenting here. It truly amazes me that so many people take any opportunity they can get to bash a player. Always finding new reasons to bash someone, without reading the whole article, or even understanding what was actually written.

  • http://www.another48minutes.blogspot.com Gerard Himself

    To add to that: since Etan Thomas was named: Thomas and Haywood both have a career of being a role player. However, Thomas is a great and thoughtful writer and speaker, and when he has a post on SLAMonline.com, no one ever says “dude should work on his game”. But with Haywood, who’s just outspoken, he can’t give his opinion on stuff, but instead of that he should be working out? Ridiculous.

  • http://sdjfklf.com Jukai

    Gerald: First off, it’s the overly aggressive “I don’t wanna be around the dude if he’s gay” attitude Haywood puts off that gets me and other people. If JJ Reddick came out and said, “hey, I don’t wanna play with Gortat, that whole Polish thing… eh, who knows what the hell they’ll do, I don’t want him in the locker room,” should we let JJ go because he was giving his opinion?
    Secondly, people bashed the hell out of Etan when he’d write. I did on multiple occasssions. Usually though, Etan would write about a serious topic which would look bad if people strayed and said “HEY ETAN WORK ON SHOOTING THE BALL INSTEAD OF TALKING ABOUT RACISM IN AMERICA”

  • http://sdjfklf.com Jukai

    But yeah, whatever, let Brendan Haywood gay hate all he wants, that’s fine.

  • buddy

    He wants Marbury so bad. Hubba Hubba

  • izzo

    I think homophobia and the SLAMonline commenting section are gay together. Just sayin’

  • Orlando Woolridge

    Wow, I’m always so disappointed to read all the homphobic statements here on this site. Nobody has ever been able to explain to me why its ok to bash gay people, but if race or religion is brought into the mix, well thats off limits. How the fvck do you make sense of that? I’ve said it here before and now I’ll say it again: hate is hate, my friends.

  • http://slamonline.com Allenp

    orlando stick around.
    Slam commenters are equal opportunity haters, wait and see.

  • Orlando Woolridge

    Gerard, your comments are ridiculous on this post. I’m sorry you fail to see that the important thing to take away from this is that homophobia is a problem and shouldn’t be tolerated, not that Brendan Haywood says other GMs and players don’t want Marbury. You are getting upset that people are bashing Haywood? WTF? It seems Haywood opened himself up for that when he unnecessarily bashed Marbury, no?

  • izzo

    Allenp: At least the racial ignorance around here is veiled because most know it won’t be accepted. Whenever a gay issue comes up around here people are blatantly and openly homophobic and it’s challenged very little.

  • Waylonakolipse

    Marbury’s new nickname is Gaybury. Not because of his sexual preference, but because he is very wack.

  • http://fjsdklf.com Jukai

    ‘I have no problem with gay people, but dudes that are all flamboyant are pretty gay’
    The intelligence is just astounding.

  • Basketball Jones

    I don’t care if he’s gay or straight, this crazy overhyped pg from coney island has officially lost his damn mind. I love SLAM, but you guys picked the wrong dude to be your poster boy.

  • http://fjsdklf.com Jukai

    ‘Marbury’s new nickname is Gaybury. Not because of his sexual preference, but because he is very wack.’
    And the bar has just been raised!

  • luv2ball

    Jukai- my intelligence is astounding

    My point being I have absolutely no problem with gay people.

    Guys that are all flamboyant, talking loud, acting (kinda like the men on film boys from Living color) I have a problem with them, because I think they are trying to hard. Especially when women don’t even act like that. Hell regular acting gay guys would call those guys gay. I could care less whom you are attracted to. If you are gay, be gay and be proud, but that doesn’t mean wearing pink ass out jeans and high heels.

    And our society is too pc. I like what Chris Rock said, if someone is acting like a $%^& Im a call them that. In our society if you criticize someone of a different color or sexual orientation; you are a racist or homophobic. Now Steph dancing to Barbie girl is pretty gay and I’m willing that LLoyd from entourage would agree with that.

  • luv2ball

    One more thing, I had a gay teammate on my college basketball team. He came out and told us as a team, and everyone was ok. No locker room issues or anything. That doesn’t mean that we didn’t rib him, and of course he ribbed us too. But he was just one of the guys that happened to like other guys, no biggie.

  • Teddy-the-Bear

    Co-sign Allenp and Orlando Woolridge. You should have seen the posts about Yao Ming and/or China.

  • izzo

    Luv2ballL:Where to begin…

  • Orlando Woolridge

    luv2ball, ummm…no. Who are you to say what people should wear or act like? If somebody wants to wear “pink ass jeans”, then damn it, they should wear them. If they are “trying to hard”, how does that affect you anyway? Just worry about yourself. Nice try though…I guess.

  • luv2ball

    I’m saying when I’m out with my sons I don’t want to see Men with their privates hanging out and ass out jeans. Is that to much to ask?

  • luv2ball


    You are right, it is not my business to tell someone what to wear or how to act. But at the same time If I’m out with my children, I should not have to see guys with ass out jeans, and their private hanging out, and things of that nature.

  • luv2ball

    Orlando, Allenp

    I have a quick question; how would you all describe the clip of Marbury?

  • http://sdjfklf.com Jukai

    luv2ball: I agree. You know what I also hate? Chinese people who wear like, oriental clothing. Don’t be a tool dude, act American! And ditch that accent!
    Am I right? Am I right?
    I mean, asian people are fine, but you know what Chris Rock always said, “if a dude acts like a c—, I’m gonna call them that!”
    I also hate Jews that wear Yamikahs. Wear a hat bro!

  • http://sdjfklf.com Jukai

    Luv2Ball: I’ll take Orlando and Allenp’s question and answer it for myself: I’d say either attention wh*ring or insane. I know you may personally BELIEVE all gays cry to Kirk Franklin, eat vaseline and smoke weed on TV, but no, they do not, so stop worrying about Marbury.

  • izzo

    “I’m saying when I’m out with my sons I don’t want to see Men with their privates hanging out and ass out jeans. Is that to much to ask?”
    Stop going to those ‘saunas’

  • tavoris

    I love how this conversation isn’t even about Haywood anymore…shows how relevant he REALLY is.

  • Josh D

    Saying it takes one to know one is kinda stupid becuase it’s blatantly obvious what he’s doing he’s doing is gay, that doesn’t make him gay,cos this may be just Starbury

  • http://slamonline.com Allenp

    Here’s what is amazing. You think you are qualified to say Marbury is gay based on his actions on the video. According to your standards, his actions are gay and you feel justified in calling them that.
    Yet, you openly bemoan the fact that other people cally you racist or homophobic based on your actions. By their standards, you actions are racist and homophobic, but you would deny them the same rights you claim for yourself.
    Have you happened to consider how big of hypocrite that makes you?

  • Sim

    Comparing sexual preference to race and ethnicity is silly. Sexuality is something that is chosen to be acted upon, race is not. So the ‘stop acting like a Chinese’ person argument isn’t valid. Two totally different things. Saying someone is acting gay is pretty silly, but in our culture acting ‘gay’is interpreted as acting a flamboyant gay male. Ignorant? Sure, it is. But so is comparing sexual preference to ethnicity.

    Back on subject though, as a center who has made a career of getting his a** busted (no pun intended) and being a sloppy, soft bum, Haywood has no room to talk…

  • http://sdjfklf.com Jukai

    Sim: Actually, if you read my comment, I never said an asian had to stop acting like an asian, I said they couldn’t wear any clothing related to their culture. I also said a Jew couldn’t wear a yamikah, not a Jew couldn’t be Jewish (WHICH, in fairness, is an acted upon quality).
    Okay, let’s have a social experiment. Act like a gay man for a year. That means, tell all your friends, family, co-workers, etc. that your gay, go out to gay bars and make love to other gay men, just generally do what you feel gay men should do.
    For a year.
    If you can do it for the entire year, then yeah, I’ll give it to you, sexuality is just something acted upon!

  • Orlando Woolridge

    luv2ball, I didn’t even see it. I don’t have to. I don’t care about that clip at all. What I do care about is people spouting hatred and ignorance.
    Sim, I’m comparing hate to hate and its all the same to me.

  • http://slamonline.com Allenp

    The whole nature vs. nurture argument in regards to homosexuality is unimportant right now.
    The simple point is that treating people with the respect you demand for yourself just makes sense. Period.

  • Orlando Woolridge

    Allenp, nice answer by the way. Well said as always.

  • Remo Williams

    way to be closed-minded my man. 2009 and we’re still scared of what we dont know. pathetic.

  • Sim

    Jukai, what are you talking about? You know what, never mind. This isn’t the forum for this. You’re right.

  • tavoris

    I personally don’t think Stephon Marbury’s actions have revealed anything other than someone who is secure-and crazy-enough to be free-spirited. I respect his moxie, because he CLEARLY doesn’t give a fudge about the opinions of anyone who has something negative to say.

  • tavoris

    I’d implore everyong up here to read the ESPN Truehoop article about this situation, especially if you agree with Brendan Haywood.

  • izzo

    His apology enititled ‘My Apology’ is almost as bad as his outburst. Lines like “I don’t support or condemn homosexuality and I believe in everyone making choices for themselves” shows that he really just doesn’t get it.

  • Clipp Show 714

    Haywood is garbage.

  • luv2ball

    If you all read my posts I never called Marbury gay, I said in the clip he was acting gay, or acting very feminine. Scroll up and read what I said before you reply.

    So who is to say that gays have to be flamboyant and act like that? Most gay guys I know are regular dudes.

    Izzo I will stop taking my son to those Saunas lol I thought they were cool hang out spots

    And Jukai, someone acting Chinese lol that is funny. Oriental is not used anymore.

    Race vs Sexual orientation is another argument. They are two totally different things.

  • izzo

    Men acting feminine =/= gay.

  • http://slamonline.com Allenp

    Luv2Ball said: And our society is too pc. I like what Chris Rock said, if someone is acting like a $%^& Im a call them that. In our society if you criticize someone of a different color or sexual orientation; you are a racist or homophobic. Now Steph dancing to Barbie girl is pretty gay and I’m willing that LLoyd from entourage would agree with that.
    At least stay consistent homie. Admit that your argument creates a double standard where you get to do whatever you want and other people do not. At least that would be honest.

  • http://www.shoenut.blogspot.com ShoeNut

    I don’t really care what Marbury does in his own time, but shouldn’t he be in the gym workin’ on his game? Another wasted talent.

  • tavoris

    Shoenut…Marbury has played for THIRTEEN years…he’s not exactly a teen queen these days.

  • http://www.shoenut.blogspot.com ShoeNut

    He hasn’t “played” since he was on the Wolves. After he left, he fell off hard.

  • Teddy-the-Bear

    @ Jukai: How is being Jewish an “acted upon quality”? Even if you rejected the religion aspect of it your ethnicity would still be Jewish. Just like if an Italian rejected Catholicism, he/she would still be Italian.

  • Brooklynite

    You guys are all pretty gay

  • http://dillanleuyahoo.com Holy Baller

    This whole gay argument is ridiculous. It’s all about what you’re standards are and what you believe in. These days no one can say anything about anyone without getting reprimanded for it. I’ll back up luv2ball on this one.

  • http://Www.lkz.ch Darksaber

    Shoenut: really? So you stopped watching ball after Marbury left the wolves then. Stephon was INCREDIBLE on the suns and nets. Consistent 20-25 points and around 8 assists per game. guess he was added to team usa cause he ” fell off after ‘sota”. Even his first few seasons as a Knick, Steph was one of the best at his position. I ignore all his rants and statements lately (attention whoring, i agree with Juks there), but Steph IS a case of wasted talent at this point in time

  • JoeMaMa

    Calling Marbury gay is insulting to gays.
    Haywood calling Marbury anything is insulting to basketball.
    And wearing Nike, Adidas, and Reebok apparel is insulting to the child slaves who had to make it.

  • NHcat

    1. Steph wasn’t dancing to Barbie Girl he was dancing to Diamond Girl by Drake- someone changed the music and posted it on youtube 2. He was dancing that way because his female viewers like it and ASK him to do it. How is that gay? 3. The only person who should have a problem with Steph stripping is Mrs. Marbury.

  • Teddy-the-Bear

    NHcat wins…

  • Teddy-the-Bear

    And Joe is still not funny.

  • JoeMaMa

    Sorry Teddy.
    I meant to give a thought provoking and illuminating response concerning gay rights, religion, and varying levels of socio-political experimentation with our current norms.
    On a basketball website. With a peanut gallery.
    Time and a place….
    And if I missed the mark with my joke, then I really do apologize. So…there’s that.

  • rikson

    I just love those “u cant even play ball” answers -> people here are soooo dumb

  • tavoris

    Darksaber, I agree with you on some point, but I don’t really think Steph is a wasted talent. He always was more of a playmaker than a distributor (more AI than Stockton, if you will), and his style (and lack of marketability) didn’t really lend itself to winning basketball. However, if you look at his stats, they line up quite nicely with Tim Hardaway, Kevin Johnson, Mark Price, and all the other elite PGs of the 90′s not names John Stockton.

  • tavoris

    our expectations of players is sometimes WAY too much. Most of the time, phenomenal physical ability is only part of the making of a good basketball player.

  • S. Trotter

    What I find interesting is that “gay” in some social circles doesn’t convey what it does in others. My group of friends are majority middle upper-class black yuppies, and saying something is “gay” means as much as saying something is taco. Calling a person gay, means they are truly a homosexual. In other social groups it means something is bad or a person is doing something you don’t agree with. Its strange.

  • Sharelle

    I read somewhere that Marbury was actually dancing to Lil Wayne and Beyonce.

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